I recently found out my husband has been watching gay porn on the internet.
Now I see that he is downloading porn from the net again this time women.
I try to keep our sex regular but if we miss having sex one day he will find time alone so that he could jack off.
My question is am I the problem or is he a porn addict?
Please help me my heart is broken and I am so glad I found this site.
The stories sound so familiar my husband whom I love with all my heart is either gay or bisexual.
I have caught him 3 times now the first was arranging a threesome he said he was never going to follow through with now its the gay chatting with men like you said very sexual and planning to meet but says now that caught for the third time and now I am finding more on credit card site and porn.
He says now he thinks he may be bisexual he don't know curious and exploring, but he loves me. Hello, It's such a hard thing what you are going through!
The trust is so gone as he continues to Lie, he says now he wants to have a honest discussion. Please Please help me do I just let him go he said he has never followed through but how long until he does. I think you need to have the open discussion, find out how he feels sexually. You mentioned he loves you and he probably does, but if you stay with him you will always be wondering if he is still talking to men or organising things.
The best thing to do right now is be strong, be honest and open it will hurt but just get it all out. But I have 3 children and all young where I feel its not best to just move on as I also need his help. I can not afford to have my own place and have applied to state help but can not. Advice needed I went out on a chance on Google to type in what has been going on with my relationship and this page came up, I've caught my partner numerous times now talking to other men on dating sites, asking to meet up and to be descrete because he has a partner.
Sorry I probably don't have much to say but I remember when I went through something very similar it was nice to just get a reply so that your not alone. Hi Laurie I'm very sorry for your situation; this is truly heartbreaking indeed. "It's just online stuff.." Mostly it's not, it's real stuff. I also don't like when we happen to stay out of town with family for the night how my kids cry for their daddy.... I asked him about it and he just says that he can't help doing it it's like he is addicted, I honestly don't get it!
Laurie, I know several people (both men and women) who were gay but in straight marriages. But he is certainly sexually attracted to men and to be honest, I don't believe for a minute that he is not in real contact with men for sex. They whole "curious" thing is what they plan on saying when caught and I hate the fact that they lie all the time about this. Although he doesn't do much but play video games all day long when he does have them. He is always sleeping during the day while kids and I go out... The days I work he is there to pick up from school and watch during the day on weekend. I tried to believe him, but i could not push it out of my mind. He is such a manly man, I don't no how to ask him more about it, Im scared to ask him about it more.