If finding ~love~ is one of your 2016 resolutions, statistically speaking, now's the time to give that dating app a shot. If you absolutely hate it, you can always delete the app and forget it ever happened.So, you’ve signed up to a couple of dating sites and have actually found a few people you’d like to get to know better… When you find someone interesting and feel the urge to say “Hey”, don’t be bashful! After all, they created a profile, just like you, in hopes of meeting someone. The most common ways to contact someone is with an email, an instant message, or a ‘wink’.
You definitely won’t know unless you contact them and find out. I recommend saving the instant messaging until you’ve exchanged a few emails because it gives you more time to think about what you are going to say and to get a feel for the other person.
Once you get more familiar with each other, then you can start chatting.
If you don’t have a paid membership, you’ll most likely be limited to using ‘winks’ or ‘smiles’ or something similar.
These are canned messages that will say something like “Nancy is interested in you” or “Joe winked at you”.
Winks and smiles are a quick way to say hello but drastically limit your ability to pique someone’s interest. The purpose of the first email is to get them to respond, to open a dialogue.
This puts a lot of pressure on having a terrific profile because it will have to do all of your talking for you. You want to get their interest but leave it open ended so that they will respond back to you. Another tip: don’t send a barrage of emails to one person, follow their pace and try to keep up.
(If they send 4 a week, you send 4 or so a week.)So How Do You Write That First Email?
When replying to personal ads, try to be, well, personable.
Write at least a paragraph or two about yourself and what you like about them or their personal ad.