Muslims who are the first generation to be born and raised in the West face a unique dilemma.They must harmonize between finding someone who is suitable religiously, and culturally.The cultural aspect can get confusing because while a person may be Indian, they have more in common with a Bengali person who grew up here also as opposed to an Indian person from ‘back home.’ It is that point though, that parents have a tough time coming to grips with.
This is why it is frustrating to see many marriages being held up because someone’s parents are looking from a family who is from the same village back home.
It is good to see the trend of our youth overlooking the racial/ethnic lines in marriage, and trying to marry for the deen, however, the obstacles are often great.
Many families are not accepting of such marriages, and many face great difficulties in pursuing them.
By ibnabeeomar Muslim This is a post I have been thinking about writing for quite some time because I have a lot of thoughts on this issue (the reasons why may be obvious from the rest of this post) and I wanted to get them down and get some feedback from other Muslims. Societal Ramifications (focus on living in the US) 4.
During Marriage – Culture Clash, Confused Kids, and Bewildered in-Laws 3.
Parting Comments Before Marriage – Stereotypes and Obstacles No matter your background, an interracial marriage will be met with obstacles on both sides.It is especially the case for the generation of people whose parents were immigrants, and they themselves were raised here.To even broach the idea of an interracial marriage will spring forth 100 year old stereotypes of other cultures you never even knew existed.It is particularly sad when these are directed at other Muslim groups.For example, a Pakistani trying to marry an Arab will no doubt hear many “Arabs are this…” or “Arabs are that…” type of comments.Even those who marry within the race will often face problems in marrying outside the tribe, or people from a specific part of the same country, so much so that some people even consider these marriages to be against the norm.