Someone who doesn't yet have this part down may need to work on it with a trained therapist before he or she is ready for a relationship.Meanwhile, even though you might feel bad or feel for someone who's been mistreated, you need to take care of yourself — it's not healthy to stay in a relationship that involves abusive behavior of any kind.
If you can think of any way in which your boyfriend or girlfriend is trying to control you, make you feel bad about yourself, isolate you from the rest of your world, or — this is a big one — harm you physically or sexually, then it's time to get out, .
Let a trusted friend or family member know what's going on and make sure you're safe.
It can be tempting to make excuses or misinterpret violence, possessiveness, or anger as an expression of love.
So when it happens, you're usually so psyched that you don't even mind when your little brother finishes all the ice cream or your English teacher chooses the one day when you didn't do your reading to give you a pop quiz.
It's totally normal to look at the world through rose-colored glasses in the early stages of a relationship.
But for some people, those rose-colored glasses turn into blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship isn't as healthy as it should be.Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these seven qualities: A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior.Some people live in homes with parents who fight a lot or abuse each other — emotionally, verbally, or physically.For some people who have grown up around this kind of behavior it can almost seem normal or OK. Many of us learn from watching and imitating the people close to us.So someone who has lived around violent or disrespectful behavior may not have learned how to treat others with kindness and respect or how to expect the same treatment.Qualities like kindness and respect are absolute requirements for a healthy relationship.