If the child fails at school, can’t control their anger, becomes promiscuous, falls into addictions, can’t maintain good relationships of their own you get to know in the back of your mind and deep in your soul that you are responsible for what molded that child. You will not be able to fix this; it will not work out, smooth over, or ever be okay.
Let me appeal to your sense of selfishness then and tell you what you personally are going to suffer in the years to come… Someone who didn’t like what they had at home so they went looking for something better. It doesn’t really matter who started it, who lied more, it doesn’t even really matter if you were tricked into a relationship not knowing he was married at first. You now have a spouse who gave up one family and chose you and yours. The minute things go wrong, and face it, in all marriages there are these times, he is going to be looking at you and wondering if you were worth it. Now you get to be insecure and feel like you are always fighting to be worth it to him.
You are going to be labeled as the bitch for the entire rest of your life.
No matter what changes or personal revelations you come to, you will be the bitch that wrecked a home and stole a husband.
As I mentioned in a post earlier this summer, I not too long ago discovered that a friend of ours – who just recently divorced – suddenly ran off and married his affair partner. I feel that this woman’s account of her situation is very powerful and should be read by anyone involved in an affair – especially if they think that a future life with their affair partner will be nothing but a blissful bowl of cherries.
This discovery motivated me to search for some stories of when the other woman becomes the wife. Of course there are exceptions and a happy marriage to the affair partner is possible, but I think that many of the issues that the author shares will arise in their “new” relationship at some point.
Harley, he is the author of several books such as .
They will no doubt put a lot of stress on the relationship.
“My perspective is from that of the other woman (OW) who became the new wife. You will get to be responsible for destroying the life of another woman.
You will get to be responsible for destroying the lives of all children involved. They are sponges and take in everything around them whether they are capable of processing it or not.